Strong Mind
Independence
Confidence
Integrity
Courage
Focus
Will
Open Heart
Vulnerability
Compassion
Generosity
Flexibility
Kindness
Faith
Different.
But not opposite.
Divergent.
But not opposed.
Distinct.
But not distant.
Draw from both sources and we are more balanced.
Balance empowers right actions.
Right actions lead to better outcomes.
How do we develop a strong mind?
Overcoming -
Uncertainty
Difficulty
Failure
Risk
Pain
How do we create an open heart?
Embracing -
Uncertainty
Difficulty
Failure
Risk
Pain
Two possibilities rooted in the same experience.
To overcome we use our minds. We understand. Learn. React.
To embrace we use our hearts. We accept. Appreciate. Grow.
We cannot truly overcome what we don’t embrace. As Hemingway noted, we become “strong at the broken places.” We do not break while we while we still resist. A necessary part of overcoming is embracing.
A strong mind needs an open heart.
Another challenge is listening to both heart and mind without experiencing it as conflict. One way to do this is to think of our inner dialogue as two parts of the same story. And every good story includes tension.
The tension reminds us to imagine a resolution that benefits the unique actors in our story. A resolution formed in a strong mind and an open heart.
While it does require more effort and creativity, learning to live and lead in this tension will allow us to avoid the consequences that come with listening to only one part of the story.
We may not always get it right but if our goal is to create long-term, sustainable success, this mindset will greatly improve our chances.
A leader who embraces the tension can work effectively in the realms of both projects and people; adapting to the situation with the balance required to serve the needs of the organization.
Needs that are bound to the mind and heart.
Kaye O'Neal
Love it. While we are naturally hardwired to be most comfortable in the realm of projects or people we can and do learn to work effectively in both, if we are conscious and intentional. Appreciate the reminder.