“It is a fact of human life that one must eventually choose a philosophy.” – from the book “A Gentleman in Moscow”, by Amor Towles
And so it goes. At least in my experience.
Actively or passively.
Through analysis or adoption.
We all choose a framework of rules and beliefs to make our way through this world.
Or to make some sense of it.
Over time, we might alter our philosophy based on our experiences.
Or alter our experiences based on our philosophy.
Searching for equilibrium.
In this sense, we’re all the same.
And we’re all different.
Even when we choose similar threads,
We produce a slightly different quilt.
Yes, you are a philosopher.
You form a construct for living life.
The question isn’t whether you have a philosophy.
The question is, what is your philosophy?
How does it shape your work?
It informs your actions.
It influences your destiny.
It defines how you respond to suffering,
and to success.
You can pretend that everyone shares your philosophy.
That yours is the right philosophy.
You can filter out all evidence to the contrary.
But if you step back and take an honest look,
Is it really working for you?
Is it serving those you love?
Is it creating the life you desire?
Is it making the world a better place?
These are important things to consider.
You can start by writing your philosophy in a journal or anywhere for that matter.
Think about your views on happiness, suffering, relationships, work, life and why you are here.
Think about the people, experiences, information, and events that shaped this point of view.
Did you choose these beliefs or did you accept them from others because it was expected or safe?
Are there things you’ve been afraid to change or let go even though you know they aren’t working?
Maybe this exercise will simply reconfirm your commitment to living in better alignment with the philosophy you have chosen.
In any case, the important thing is to exercise your power to choose.
And remember, everyone around you is on the same journey. Trying to find their way in this world. Be patient. Give people space to figure it out and don’t judge too quickly.
Be a student of your own philosophy.
Explore and understand the beliefs that define your experience of the world.
As a leader, teacher, coach, partner, parent, or friend, encourage others to do the same. Share, challenge, learn and grow together.
“Non quia difficilia sunt non audemus, sed quia non audemus, difficilia sunt..” – Seneca